Someone Else....

I saw you and wanted to see you more,

And then I realized you just wanted to see someone else!

I thought I might impress you,

But I forgot you were already impressed by someone else

I liked your words coming out of your mouth and the charm in each sentence you spoke…

And then I noticed it all speaks of someone else

The curly hair that kept drifting back at your face – your natural beauty

Oh damn, it just belonged to someone else!

Those big eyes, and the big smile on your face…

…that just grew bigger when you saw some else.

There was so much love in your voice,

But it just exhibited when you spoke to someone else

I wanted you to look into my eyes just once…

Alas, you couldn't keep them off someone else!

My heart thumps loud when I see you

But you are too busy to listen to someone else…

Neither the board meetings, nor the steep targets – it’s you who makes me nervous

My bad, you just cared for someone else

You shook my hand, and I wanted to hold it tight…

Shit, it just wanted to slip into the hands of someone else!

I hope to see you again and tell you how I feel for you,

Just so that you know - there's always someone else…

Wave Talk

Not too long back, I went to Mumbai and happened to visit Juhu Beach. I was standing at the shore when a wave came and touched my feet. I don’t know if it was a different feeling than the experience that I had before of Miramar Beach of Goa. Within a second I heard a voice:

How are you Mohit?

Me: I am fine. Who are you?

Wave: I am a wave.

Me: What do you want?

Wave: I want to speak to you.

Me: Tell me.

Wave: I want to speak to you because at some point of time I was just like you.

Me: I don’t understand.

Wave: All waves have characteristics just like humans. When I see you, it reminds me of my past.

Me: Ohhkk. So?

Wave: Mohit, what do you think of yourself? What type of person you are?

Me: I am nice person.

Wave: How can you say so?

Me: I think I don’t do wrong to anyone. I am well-wisher. I have the opinion that the people who know me think in the same way too.

Wave: Why do you think your friends love you?

Me: Because, I am their true friend.

Wave: I think they just empathize to you and your problems.

Me: I don’t agree.

Wave: Why do you have to take yourself so seriously? Why can’t you be free and live life like no one did?

Me: I can’t help. That’s the way I am. You see, I have some responsibilities and I find myself surrounded by them always.

Wave: Who does not have responsibilities? Who does not care for their family and support them?

Me: Ya, I know.

Wave: Do you know what life wants from you?

Me: No, tell me.

Wave: Life wants you to live freely. Not like an underdog. Rise above that level for heaven sake. That’s your biggest problem. Some things are not in your hands. Leave it to God. He will take care of them. You can do great. Trust me.

Me: How do you know that?

Wave: I told you, I was just like you. I have always been a weak wave. But see today, I have crossed everything, came so far and touched you. I never thought that I will be able to do it.  

Me: I see.

Wave: Mohit, I want to tell you that you are lucky to have such caring family and friends. You deserved it. But do something in your life for which people remember you, even several years after you pass away. You have the opportunity to make it count. Don’t kill time in non-fruitful activities.

Me: Can you tell me what exactly I need to do?

Wave: You already know the answer Mohit. Don’t you?

Then the wave went back and got mixed with other waves leaving me in all kinds of thoughts.  

At 60! Feeling Helpless?

Life is strange. As children we are dependent on our parents for most of the things. We respect them, love them, care for them as our universe starts from them and ends at them. We grow up, start working, earning and become independent. We no longer have to plead them to eat an ice-cream. Slowly, we imagine ourselves as the supreme leader in the family and forget the sacrifices that they have done to bring us up.

A week ago, I was travelling from Bareilly to Rudrapur by a UP transport bus. An old lady (60+) was sitting with me. We were about to reach Rudrapur. She tried to call her son couple of times so that he could come to the bus-stand to receive her, but she could not. She asked me to help her. I called and gave the phone to her. She put the phone on “Loudspeaker” to listen clearly. Her daughter-in-law picked up the phone and asked her to come on her own. Her husband in the background told the same to her. Old lady pleaded to send her son as she was carrying 3 bags with her and it was already 11 at night. She refused and cut the phone call. Everyone in the bus could hear the conversation. I saw her face. She was tensed, frightened, dejected and could cry at any moment. I felt for the lady. In this cold, temperature below 8, it was difficult to even put your hands out of the pocket.

We reached the bus-stand. I took her bags and helped her, get down the bus. I called a rickshaw for her. She sat and I paid the money. The lady moved her hand over my head in order to give her blessings. She left and I took another rickshaw to my hotel.

I had mixed feelings. I felt bad for what the lady has to go through and felt good that I did nice gesture by helping her. I wonder how children change their feelings towards their parents. We can see many such cases in our neighborhood, where the children abandon their parents or exploit them daily. A lot of introspection is required about how our societies are moving. With the economic growth, the life expectancy in India is also increasing. We all need to secure our future so that we don’t land up in such situations.

Some of the things that we can do are: inculcate good family values to our children. Make them understand that they too will become parents one day. Do not name your assets- land or property after them in advance. Try old-age shelters if nothing works. Do not waste your pension. Try saving some part of it. It is for your benefit only. Children are already losing a lot by not taking their parents’ guidance, which they don’t understand. At the same time government needs to take initiatives for the old age people.

All I can say is let’s be strong to face such adversity in life. Do not expect much. And I hope none of us have to see such a day in our lives.   

U Are Nothing, But a Mass of Habits

The dictionary meaning of habit is “An acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary”. Most of our life is habitual. You do the same things that you did yesterday. That’s how life goes on. You never realize which of your habits are good or bad, just because you don’t analyze them. It happens with everyone.

When I was a child, I remember my father told me once to think everything that you did today before going to sleep. Think what were the things that you did wrong, and not to repeat them. And repeat this each day. This will help you to become a nice individual. After that day, my father never asked me to check whether I was following this practice each day or not. If he would have done that, I would have probably followed it from my childhood days. So, the truth is, I never thought of this question even once for the next 10 years of my life; before one fine day I realized some of my flaws and the number of times I repeated them.

You see, there is no age of developing good habits. Some of us are lucky enough to have great childhood learning, in the proper guidance of their family members. Some might not have it. But, life teaches each one of us. We all fall some or the other time in life, but the important thing is to learn from that fall and continue the journey with more confidence by converting bad habits into good ones.

I remember I had this habit of procrastinating things. Whenever there is any task to do, there is usually some time frame given to complete that task. I used to procrastinate the task up to the last very day. Once, I had to pay heavy price for this bad habit of mine. And that day, I swore before the God I will never ever delay the things.

   

You go and analyze lives of top CEOs of MNCs, top analysts of any country, top officials, top sportsmen, anyone who is doing outstanding in their field of work. They manage thousands, lacks of people. But, you see how they manage themselves. Each and every second of their lives are bounded by their good habits.

Even a small change you do today and make it a habit, it can result in a big way after some years. If you need to keep growing, changes are necessary. Learn to change according to the situation, learn to improvise, otherwise you will fall behind and the time will prevail. Make good habits because habits whatever may be good or bad make you who you are. Remember “Good Things Will Always Remain Good”; how, where, when they might help you in some or the other way, you just can’t imagine.